Did you see the American skydiver – Luke Aikins – setting the world record for the highest jump without a parachute as he plummeted 25,000 feet into a net in California over the weekend? It was brilliantly thrilling stuff – so inspiring, yet terrifying, but did you at any point think, ‘oh I could never do something like that?’…
I remember when I first heard of a woman swimming the English Channel – I was about 8 years old. The feat was epic, the person a mythical creature. And, that is a danger; we put people we admire – or the feats they have done – in a category separate to ourselves.
We think; ‘They must be made of sterner stuff, have had a different upbringing, be super human. Other. Not like me.’
And so our dreams remain aloof. Intangible, out of reach of us mere mortals.
Be your own hero – when all is said and done, and anyone else who can stand in judgement is no more, and you’re lying in your bed, it is your own mind that knows what you did- or didn’t do.
Be that person that you can be proud of. Don’t wait for someone else to notice, or seek others approval. Don’t do – or not do things – because of other people’s opinions.
At the core of your being, know you are doing the right thing. Travel that road constantly, build that bridge into a highway so you have regular and easy access to that which drives you. The more you practice the route, the clearer it becomes.
And, if you start off lost and confused, learn to read your signposts. Don’t wait for it to become clear, start blindly in any direction that you fancy. Blindly – with arms outstretched, with trepidation, feeling every nuance of reaction to gauge whether the way forward is the one you want to pursue. Adjust constantly and according to your feedback. Learn your own language, create your own map. How can you ever be happy with yourself if you are living by someone else’s script?
And if you are not full of yourself, who are you full of? Not boastful, just filling your own skin, knowing your own mind. Answering to your own clarion call – dancing to your own tune.
Dare to walk that tightrope to your best version of events. It’s not enough to feel the fear and do it anyway- feel the fear and recognise the anticipation for what it is. And start.
Anywhere, just start.