Jennifer Aniston broke down in tears whilst addressing a room full of young people during the recent Giffoni Film Festival in Italy and admitted that she often feels insecure and full of self doubt.
The annual youth festival, which takes place on the Amalfi coast, is judged by a group of children and teens from across the globe and one of them asked the star if she has ever woken up in the morning and questioned who she was.
Wiping back tears the actress replied: “There are not enough fingers and toes in this entire room to count how many times that moment has happened to me.
“We’re all human beings at the end of the day, whether we’re a waitress or a baker or a student or whatever we are, at the end of the day you kind of can hit walls and think I can’t go any farther. Or this is too much. My heart can’t take it or the pain is too great, or am I good enough? Will I survive?
“And you just have to sort of somehow miraculously overcome. You just go, ‘I can’t, yes I can, yes you can’.”
She continued: “And also know that your actors, your idols, your icons, whatever you call them, have all had that experience in their lives many, many times.
“There’s nothing that separates us from you, because we all started at the same place. We all came out of nowhere. Don’t punish yourself if you feel that. Go talk to people and seek help and always find something to inspire you.”
Whilst Hollywood is a notoriously judgemental and harsh industry, we wondered why so many women are prone to insecurities which can have a bearing on their entire lives.
“Being happy in your own skin is a choice,” Anita Kerr, who is a psychologist, tells Lumity.
“If you continually compare yourself to others you will struggle with feelings of jealousy and self-doubt. The crucial thing to remember is that everyone else is putting on a brave face and we all have difficulties in life – whether we are rich or poor, young or old, or if we have what others perceive to be a perfect life.
“Women in particular are often very harsh with themselves.
“They will often have this inner-critic which is an inner monologue that tells them they’re too fat, that others have a better job or husband or partner or better clothes. Instead of counting their blessings, or being thankful for what they do have, they draw up mental ‘shopping lists’ of what they don’t have.
“It leads to anger, bitterness, guilt and often hostile behaviour towards those they feel might be doing better than them, but they’re forgetting that others all have their own battles – we just can’t always see them.
“We don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. Stop and think how many times you were jealous of someone only to find out they had this horrific tragic thing that happened to them which you had no idea about. Try and be kinder and more forgiving of others and also yourself.
“The trick is to be aware when you’re being self-critical and making yourself unhappy for no reason. Therapy helps hugely as often insecurity stems from childhood; if the women in your life when you were young continually picked at you or had poor self-image themselves you’re likely to carry that with you into adulthood. Be kind to yourself, remember nobody is better than you and stop comparing.
“You already have the perfect body. If you feel your life is lacking then sit down, make a list of what you can do about it and then make changes.
“Decide to be happy – it is true that happiness comes from within and loving yourself is crucial for that. Be your own best friend, rather than your own worst enemy – like far too many women are.”
We have already talked about how negative social media can be for self-image and Aniston also touched on that while she was in Italy:
“I think we need to empower women to not just be about dresses and beauty and selfies,” she said.
“We need to start having conversations and put our phones down and get out of social media, take social media breaks.”
Were you insecure when you were younger? – How did you come through it? – Let us know in the comments…