Miranda Kerr: ‘How I got over heartache’
-Nov 22, Jenny Paul, Mind -
All of us have suffered from a broken heart at some point in our lives. But there’s most definitely healthy and unhealthy ways to heal yourself. We take a look at how wellness fantastic and model Miranda Kerr helped herself to recover following her divorce.
Miranda Kerr is one of the healthiest models out there; the Sydney, Australia-born supermodel has spoken extensively about her passion for wellbeing and the 80:20 lifestyle in the past.
But, almost all of us will experience depression at some point in our lives, and following her separation and eventual divorce from actor Orlando Bloom in 2013, Miranda admits that she was no exception and went through a really tough time emotionally:
“When Orlando and I separated [in 2013], I actually fell into a really bad depression,” she tells Elle Canada. “I never understood the depth of that feeling or the reality of that because I was naturally a very happy person.”
It was then that Miranda harnessed the power of positive thinking she says, adding that she realised: “Every thought you have affects your reality and only you have control of your mind.”
To cope, she started a regime of twice-daily meditation as well as practising gratitude, “When I wake up and when I go to bed, I have that attitude of gratitude and I say, ‘Thank you for this beautiful day, for this roof over my head, for the fact that I have my health and my son has his health, and thank you for our family.’”
It’s a great habit to get into and chronic negative thinkers are advised to keep a gratitude diary, where at the end of each day they write down everything in their lives that they’re thankful for (it can be something simple like having hair, or good friends). They also add in little postcards from their travels and notes from family members on birthdays and other special occasions and, eventually, just thinking about the journal can make people who are feeling down feel instantly happy.
Miranda also practiced mindfulness and meditation, along with a philosophy of self-sufficiency – which, put simply, is a daily reminder to oneself that happiness comes from within rather than from material items: “What I have found is that everything you need, all of the answers are deep inside of you,” she explains. “Sit with yourself, take a few breaths and get close to your spirit.
“I have this philosophy that we should all be like willow trees—people think that in a big storm, the oak is the strongest tree, but it’s actually the willow tree because it’s very, very flexible.”
“The hairdresser was having a challenging time on-set,” she recalls of a photo-shoot she attended recently. “My hair was short and the client wanted it long, and [the male model, Tobias Sorensen] had long hair and they wanted it to look short. I saw that the hairdresser was looking flustered, so I gave him an oil that my aromatherapist made for me. It literally feels like a big hug. Immediately he was more centred and calmed down; he just felt so much better.”
And, eventually, as she healed from her heartache, Miranda learned that the simplest pleasures in life are the best and says that these days her idea of a good time is a relaxed one:
“Being with my family, reading to [her son] Flynn, playing with him,” are what makes her happy she says. “We draw together; we build blocks together. I also love swinging on swings.”
Sounds perfect to us. What are your favourite ways to feel happy? Let us know in the comments below…