The world of dating seems to have changed beyond recognition in the past decade. Gone are the days of random meetings of likeminded individuals in a wine bar on a Saturday night. Dating has gone high-tech, and while there are still tales of blind-date set ups and work-place romances, most love stories these days seem to start with an app.
It can be intimidating if you find yourself single having been out of the dating game for a while. And it definitely feels like a world for the youngsters – something overwhelmingly alien and not for people like us. But the truth is, while this is a brave new world, it can actually be perfect for people exactlylike us – because while the online world and dating apps seems daunting, in fact it’s a fabulous way to find a host of like-minded potential partners from the comfort of your own living room. And what could be better than that?
Here’s Lumity’s list of the best online dating apps for women in the bloom of their midlife years. Let us know how you get on!
This website has the benefit of scale – with nearly 1.8 million subscribers there are a LOT of people registered and paying their £29.99 a month so your options are very open. You can slowly work up to interaction – winking is the first move, followed by chatting, and then – ultimately – a meet up. You can post a lot of information and plenty of photographs so there should be no unpleasant surprises.
If your politics align, this could be a great platform for finding someone on the same wavelength as you. This site is more niche so there’s less volume, but on the flip side, there’s been an element of filtering – so when your Matches come through you might be better suited than on bigger sites. To talk to potential suitors, you’ll need to sign up for £32 a month.
If you’re over 50, and looking for a partner in your same age bracket, then this is the perfect way to block out all the youngsters. It also seems to mean – perhaps as everyone on here is comfortable being who they are – that conversations are plentiful and people seem to know who they are and what they’re looking for. You can sign up and have an opening chat with someone for free.
My Lovely Parent
Just like My Single Friend, where your friend writes your description and tries to find you a match with someone else’s single friend, this time it’s your kids who are doing what they can to help their lovely parents find someone special. The descriptions are heart-warming and while this is a niche site with fewer members than the bigger dating sites, it’s perfect for the more reluctant dater. Kids can suggest matches for their parents, and keep gently encouraging. Membership to chat starts at £12.99 a month. Most parents on here are over 50.
Strictly interested in rural country walks and countryside living? Muddy Matches is the site for those allergic to city slickers. In fact, townies are welcome on Muddy Matches but they have to be open minded enough to be up for some some country fun. You can nose around for free and the age range is broader than on the sites more specifically for 50+. To be able to chat you need to sign up for a £24-a-month membership.
A modern dating site for over 50s, with each profile containing at least 3 pictures and a lengthy biog. The best thing about this site is that it’s free – and again, due to the fact that there’s an age restriction, those signing up tend to be clear about who they are and what they’re looking for, so matches are simpler. Good conversation is a key component.
A novel approach – this time you pick your match based on the date they suggest you’re going on, so the awkwardness of a conversation over a glass of wine is eliminated entirely, depending on which dating option you pick. How about a sushi-making masterclass? It’s all about meeting a like-minded mate. Sign up is quick and easy and it can cost as little as £10 a month – you’ve just got to come up with a really fun date!