Why have I lost my sex drive? – Health questions for the over 40s
-Feb 16, Rachel Richards, Health -
If you have suddenly lost your sex drive or are wondering what other nagging issues and questions you should be asking your doctor about as you celebrate turning 40, 50, 60 years and over we have compiled a handy list.
Most of us can agree that reaching 40, 50 or 60 years of age is an exciting turning point in our lives, but as is always the case when there’s lots of other distractions going on, it can be easy to forget to take care of health matters. We tend to take things like a lost sex drive for granted when in fact a trip to the doctor can resolve this and many other issues.
Whether it is an empty nest, taking care of ageing parents, or getting ready for retirement, many situations can take a toll on the body and it’s better to catch any potential problems early, rather than too late.
Which health issues should you consider talking over with a doctor after you have blown out the candles on your birthday cake?
Q: Why have I lost my sex drive? I’m no longer interested in being intimate with my partner. Is something wrong with my health? What can I do about it?
A: Don’t forget that your doctor isn’t there to judge and they’ve heard it all (and much more!) before. For men who have lost their sex drive doctors can test testosterone and other hormone levels – which are often responsible from everything to a loss of interest in sex to unexplained weight gain and tiredness.
Your doctor might recommend a sensible diet and exercise plan. Working out every morning changes your entire day, because you’re likely to release those lovely feel good endorphins and therefore feel less stressed.
A benefit of regular exercise and a healthy diet is weight loss, which in turn will control cholesterol and high blood pressure, which can lead to trouble with erections, says The Cleveland Clinic.
Many people lose their libidos as they get older and for a myriad of reasons. But you don’t have to buy a buttoned up nightdress and move twin beds into your bedroom like our grandparents did once they hit 50 and over. See your doctor and they will definitely be able to help.
Q: I think I’ve started menopause. What can I do to ease symptoms?
A lot of peri-menopause and menopausal symptoms like hot flushes, weepiness, mood-swings, irritation and sleep troubles can be eased and even eradicated completely with natural methods. Eating a diet which is not heavy in refined sugar, processed food and piles of stodgy, refined carbs, and is instead packed with vegetables, fruit, lean protein and legumes, potatoes and whole grains should help.
If a complete lifestyle makeover scares you, perhaps aim for 70:30 – which is being “good” 70% of the time and eating what you like for 30%. According to our calculations, that means you can hit the wine, chocolate and pizza at weekends then try and be a bit healthier in the week. Most importantly though: listen to your body.
Many women agree that menopause is a wonderful landmark where they feel like a grown woman. So try to embrace it. Your doctor is there to help you so do try to make use of that – you don’t have to suffer in silence.
Q: How often should I get my blood pressure checked?
About one in three U.S. adults, or about 70 million people, have high blood pressure. But, only about half (52 percent) have that high blood pressure under control, says the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
Since high blood pressure increases your risk for stroke and heart disease, it’s suggested that you get your blood pressure checked every two years. If the systolic (top) number is between 120 and 139 or the diastolic number (bottom) is between 80 and 89 mm Hg, then get it checked every year, says the U.S. National Library of Medicine.
Q: Do I need a prostate cancer screening?
Fifty is a good time for men to start talking with their doctors about getting a prostate cancer screening says The American Cancer Society. Many put it off and then sadly don’t live to regret it, so definitely consider it. Knowing is always better than not knowing when it comes to getting medical tests.
Q: I’m not sleeping well. What can I do?
One in three American adults don’t get enough sleep on a regular basis, says the CDC. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine and the Sleep Research Society recommend that adults ages 18 to 60 get at least seven hours of sleep a night. Getting less sleep is associated with an increased risk of developing chronic conditions like high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes, stroke, heart disease and more.
Your doctor can discuss good sleep habits with you and getting on top of hormone balance and doing a total digital switch off an hour before bed (so, not TV, no surfing the internet and put away your smartphone) will help your brain get ready to unwind.
Q: Do I need a colon cancer screening?
You need to ask your doctor about colon cancer testing once you’ve hit fifty years old. They can advise a plan of action that will suit you best.
Q: How often should I get a mammogram?
The American Cancer Society says that women who are over forty should book in for regular mammograms, and your doctor can tell you how often to come after the first one. They’re honestly not all that uncomfortable and the relief of knowing what’s going on is well worth a few moments of mild discomfort.
Tell us in the comments; is anything health-related bothering you as you get older? Or do you feel better than ever? Let us know.